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· 4 min read
Gaurav Parashar

Life is a complex journey filled with a myriad of emotions, expectations, and responsibilities. We often find ourselves caught up in the chaos, struggling to make sense of it all. However, there is immense power in learning to let it all go. When we release our attachments, we create space for clarity, allowing us to observe from a bird's eye view and see things as they truly are, unfiltered by our expectations or the lens of a utopian world. I am experiencing today the transformative benefits of letting go and how journaling has helped me gain strong insights about my personal lives, value systems, and the art of living in the absence.

The Power of Letting It All Go

Letting go is an art that requires practice and conscious effort. It involves surrendering our grip on control, allowing life to unfold naturally. When we loosen our attachments to specific outcomes or expectations, we free ourselves from the burden of disappointment or frustration. Letting go grants us the ability to embrace the present moment and accept reality as it is, rather than how we wish it to be. It opens the doors to clarity and enables us to see situations and people without distortion.

Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.

Gaining a Bird's Eye View

When we let go, we gain a higher perspective, akin to viewing life from a bird's eye. By detaching ourselves from the details and immersing ourselves in a broader understanding, we can observe the interconnectedness of events, patterns, and emotions. This shift in perspective allows us to make more informed decisions and respond to life's challenges with a sense of wisdom and detachment.

Seeing Reality vs. Expectations

Our expectations often cloud our judgment and hinder our ability to see things as they truly are. We create mental images of how things "should" be, setting ourselves up for disappointment or frustration when reality doesn't align with our idealized visions. Letting go enables us to see reality for what it is, free from the distortions of our expectations. This clarity empowers us to accept the truth and make choices based on the actual circumstances, leading to more realistic and fulfilling experiences.

Journaling: Uncovering Insights

One powerful tool for letting go and gaining clarity is journaling. By putting pen to paper and expressing our thoughts, we create a safe space for reflection and introspection. Journaling allows us to delve into our emotions, fears, and aspirations, helping us uncover deep-rooted patterns and beliefs. As we let our thoughts flow onto the pages, we often gain unexpected insights and a better understanding of ourselves. Regular journaling can be a transformative practice that enhances self-awareness and facilitates the process of letting go.

Living in the Absence

Letting go doesn't mean detachment from life; rather, it is about living fully in the absence of what we release. It is about embracing the present moment and finding contentment within ourselves, rather than seeking fulfillment from external sources. When we let go of our attachments, we open ourselves to new possibilities and create space for growth, joy, and inner peace.

Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don't.

Letting it all go is a profound act of self-liberation. It allows us to see things clearly, unburdened by our expectations or an idealized version of reality. Through the practice of letting go and journaling, we gain invaluable insights about our personal lives and the value systems that shape us. We learn to live in the absence, embracing the present moment with clarity, authenticity, and a sense of deep fulfillment. So, take a deep breath, let it all go, and watch as the world unfolds before you, revealing its true beauty.

· 3 min read
Gaurav Parashar

As we find ourselves at the start of July, we have officially crossed the midway point of 2023. The past six months have been a challenging time globally, impacting the economy, startups, investors, and businesses. Additionally, this juncture prompts us to contemplate the fleeting nature of time and the importance of maintaining consistency in achieving our goals. Today on a Sunday, I reflect on the first half of 2023, exploring the hurdles faced by various sectors and the significance of both deadlines and consistency in personal and professional endeavors.

A Challenging Year for the Economy, Startups, Investors, and Businesses

The year 2023 has posed significant obstacles for the global economy, startups, investors, and businesses alike. The ongoing pandemic, geopolitical tensions, and supply chain disruptions have created an atmosphere of uncertainty and volatility. Companies have grappled with fluctuating demand, operational constraints, and financial pressures. Startups seeking funding have faced a more cautious investment landscape, with investors adopting a risk-averse approach. Businesses across sectors have had to adapt swiftly, embracing digital transformation and innovative strategies to navigate these turbulent times. As we navigate the second half of the year, resilience and adaptability remain crucial for survival and growth.

Time Perception: Months Fly, Days Drag:

In the hustle and bustle of our lives, it's not uncommon to feel as though time slips through our fingers. The halfway mark of the year serves as a reminder of the swift passage of time. While days may sometimes seem long and arduous, months and years seem to escape us unintentionally. It is important to pause and reflect, acknowledging the need to make the most of the time we have. By setting clear goals and prioritizing our tasks, we can better manage our time and ensure that each day is filled with purpose and progress.

The Dual Nature of Deadlines and Consistency

When it comes to accomplishing tasks and achieving goals, deadlines and consistency play different but complementary roles. Deadlines act as a powerful motivator for tackling smaller projects and immediate tasks. The pressure of a looming deadline can spur productivity and focus. However, when it comes to medium and long-term goals, consistency becomes the true friend. Consistency is about showing up day after day, persistently working towards your objectives. It is the steadfast commitment to progress that paves the way for sustainable growth and success. While deadlines may provide a short-term boost, consistency ensures the long-term fruition of our aspirations.

As we reach the midway point of 2023, we reflect on the challenges faced globally in the economy, startups, investors, and businesses. The year has demanded resilience and adaptability from individuals and organizations alike. Simultaneously, it serves as a reminder of the ephemeral nature of time, prompting us to make intentional choices and embrace each day with purpose. While deadlines are valuable for short-term projects, consistency is the true companion for achieving medium and long-term goals. By combining the power of both, we can make the most of the remaining months of the year, ensuring progress and growth in our personal and professional lives.

· 2 min read
Gaurav Parashar

There are certain childhood songs that hold a special place in our hearts and continue to resonate with us throughout our lives. One such song that embodies timeless wisdom and meaning is Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena. This beautiful Hindi prayer song, often sung during times of struggle or seeking inner strength, carries profound significance in our daily lives.

The Essence of Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena

Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena is a prayer for inner strength, courage, and determination. It acknowledges that life can present challenges and hurdles, but with the power of a resilient mind, we can overcome them and find solace.

Meaning in Daily Life

  1. Resilience in Difficult Times: The song reminds us that difficulties are a part of life's journey. In times of adversity, we can draw upon the power of our minds to remain steadfast and resilient. It encourages us to face challenges head-on and find the strength within to persevere.

  2. Seeking Inner Peace: "Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena" acknowledges the importance of finding inner peace and tranquility amidst the chaos of daily life. It serves as a reminder to nurture our minds, cultivating positivity, and seeking solace within ourselves.

  3. Overcoming Fear and Doubt: The song encourages us to conquer our fears and doubts. It instills the belief that our minds have the power to dispel negativity, bolstering our confidence and enabling us to navigate uncertain situations with clarity and conviction.

  4. Cultivating Self-belief: "Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena" emphasizes the significance of self-belief. It urges us to trust in our abilities and embrace the power within us. By harnessing our inner strength, we can overcome self-doubt, embrace our potential, and accomplish great things.

  5. Connecting with Spirituality: The song carries a spiritual undertone, reminding us of our connection to a higher power. It serves as a reminder to seek guidance, strength, and clarity from within and from the divine source.


मुश्किलें पड़े तो हम पे इतना करम कर

साथ दे तो धरम का चले तो धरम कर

खुद पे हौसला रहे बड़ी से ना डरे

दूसरों की जय से पहले खुद को जय करे

हम को मन की शाक्त देना मन विजय करे


YouTube Quicklinks

  1. Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena (Oringal)
  2. Humko Mann Ki Shakti Dena (A.R. Rahman Version)

· 3 min read
Gaurav Parashar

Health insurance

In our daily lives, we often set rules and boundaries for ourselves to maintain structure and discipline. While these rules can be beneficial, there are instances when breaking them can lead to unexpected growth and personal development. Today, I broke a self-imposed rule and did not feel guilty about it. I relised it.

It is important to enjoy the freedom that comes with breaking a rule while finding a way to return to our established norms.

Embracing growth through rule-breaking

Self-imposed rules are often established to create routines, maintain discipline, or uphold certain standards. However, occasionally challenging these rules can open doors to new opportunities and personal growth. By stepping out of our comfort zones and questioning the validity of our rules, we create room for exploration and self-discovery. Breaking rules can lead to fresh perspectives, innovative ideas, and a greater understanding of ourselves.

When we intentionally break a rule, we often experience a sense of liberation and excitement. The feeling of freedom can be invigorating and empower us to embrace new experiences and perspectives. By breaking a rule, we challenge the status quo, allowing ourselves to think outside the box and pursue paths we might have previously considered off-limits. It is essential to savor this joy and appreciate the sense of freedom that comes with rule-breaking.

Back to discipline

While breaking rules can be enlightening, it is equally important to recognize the value of structure and discipline. After enjoying the benefits of breaking a rule, finding a way to reintegrate back into established norms is essential for maintaining balance. Returning to the norm with a fresh perspective and a renewed sense of purpose can help foster growth while preserving the benefits of structure.

Breaking rules does teach us the importance of flexibility and adaptability in life. It reminds us that rules should serve as guidelines rather than rigid boundaries. By being open to change and allowing ourselves to challenge existing norms, we become more resilient and adaptable to new situations.

The key to reaping the benefits of breaking rules lies in finding balance. It is important to strike a harmonious equilibrium between structure and exploration. This can be achieved by identifying the rules that truly align with our values and goals while also recognizing when it is appropriate to break them for personal growth. By consciously balancing rule-breaking experiences with a return to established norms, we create a healthy and sustainable approach to personal development.

· One min read
Gaurav Parashar

Conflict ridden day

Conflict are a natural phenomena of human interaction, and some days can feel particularly fraught with tension and disagreement. A conflict-ridden day can be emotionally exhausting, leaving individuals feeling drained and overwhelmed.

Today was one such day, with friction and arguments. It can be summarized as a day which was the polar opposite of path of least resistance. Keeping a calm mind and balanced attitude is difficult on such days. Another day. Another step.

· 2 min read
Gaurav Parashar

Are you listening?

Effective communication is the foundation of any successful relationship, be it personal or professional. And one of the most crucial components of communication is listening. However, merely hearing what someone says is not enough; to truly understand and connect with others, I must practice active listening.

Active listening involves not only hearing the words someone is saying but also understanding their message, emotions, and body language. It requires focus, attention, and an open mind.

Listening with body scan

Body scanning involves paying attention to the speaker's nonverbal cues such as facial expressions, gestures, and tone of voice. The benefits of active listening are numerous. Firstly, it helps build stronger relationships by fostering trust and understanding. When I feel heard and understood, I am more likely to open up and share my thoughts and feelings.

Listening and devices

Use of devices has made it increasingly difficult for me to practice active listening. With iPhone, laptop and TV always turned on, I am easily distracted and disengaged during conversations. Not only do these devices divert my attention, but they also send a message to the speaker that I am not fully invested in the conversation Additionally, in the past, practicing mindfulness has helped me improve my ability to focus and be present during conversations.

· One min read
Gaurav Parashar

Focus during illness

The body during routine illness like flu is under stress. Usual symptoms like sneezing, cough or body ache - though routine - lead to a dip in focus. The ability to focus on a complex topics reduces and deep work is difficult. A lot it can be attributed to the medication which induces drowsiness and lack of quality sleep.

Hacks that work for me

If working from office, the following helps:

  • Cut short your work day by 50% i.e. take a half day and focus only on urgent and important work.
  • Start after breakfast and delay the lunch a bit. Avoid coffee is you can.
  • Take break every 30 minutes and reorient towards urgent and important work.

If working from home, the following helps:

  • Do not work from the bed, only work from a table and chair.
  • Keep a clip pad or notebook and strike off things that you complete.
  • Put on some music and ensure adequate sunlight.
  • Work in a one burst of 6 hours and then do not open laptop unless the world is falling apart
  • Be gentle and kind, enjoy the sick leave.

· One min read
Gaurav Parashar

Body and symptoms

Our body is a really complex system and is at times ahead of our mind. It warns us of upcoming downtimes and issues. It is an art to listen to your body and respect its limitations.

Today morning at 5:30 am, I woke up with a sore throat - most likely flu with the changing weather. I heated some water with salt and gargled. I had a similar feeling on Sunday after exercise and exertion.

Enjoying a sick day

In the last few years, I have started enjoying sick days. I differentiate the day by reading something new on Kindle, ordering a bit of junk food and mostly making it a point to satisfy my sweet tooth. Looks like today is one of those days where the second half is all about resting and shutting the body down.

· 2 min read
Gaurav Parashar

We have more faith in what we imitate than in what we originate - Bruce Lee

Self actualization

Self actualization - the realization or fulfillment of one's talents and potentialities, especially considered as a drive or need present in everyone.

Characteristics of Self Actualized People

  • Self accepting
  • Enjoy solitude and privacy
  • Autonomous
  • Open and spontaneous
  • Realistic
  • Responsible
  • Enjoy the journey, and not just the destination

Self-Image actualization

Bruce Lee adds:

Many people dedicate their lives to actualizing a concept of what they should be like, rather than actualizing themselves. This difference between self-actualizing and self-image actualizing is very important. Most people only live for their image.

Where some people have a self, most people have a void, because they are so busy projecting themselves as this or that. This again is the curse of the ideal. The curse is that you should not be what you are. Every external control, even internalized external control - "you should" - interferes with the healthy working of the organism. There is only one thing that should control the situation. If you understand the situation that you are in, and let the situation that you are in control your actions, then you learn how to cope with life.

Carl Rogers believed that for a person to achieve self-actualization they must be in a state of congruence. This means that self-actualization occurs when a person's “ideal self” (i.e., who they would like to be) is congruent with their actual behavior (self-image).

· One min read
Gaurav Parashar

Alone is state of being or body, whereas loneliness is state of mind.

Celebrating your time alone

I have many Sundays when I do not have a conversations with more than 5 people face to face. A conversation is something meaningful and more than just exchange of instructions or tasks. Many a times, I only have conversations virtually, i.e. not face to face.

In the last 2 years, I have learnt to celebrate my time alone. It is liberating and empowering - calms you down and you can get a lot done with focus.

Today, I ended up spending my time with 2 km swimming, catching up on sleep, reading a book cover to cover, 10k steps and listening to an audio book.