26 posts tagged with "habit"

In February 2023, I started a new habit that has brought me closer to my father in a way I hadn't anticipated. Inspired by the timeless practice of letter writing, I decided to pen down my thoughts, experiences, and the significant events of each month in heartfelt letters to my father.

Rediscovering the Art of Communication​

In the digital age, where messages can be sent with a click, the act of putting pen to paper or typing it in Obsidian carries a profound significance. Writing letters to my father has become a cherished ritual, providing a tangible and lasting expression of my thoughts. Each carefully crafted letter serves as a time capsule, capturing the essence of the month gone by.

Chronicles of the Month​

These monthly letters have become a narrative of my life, encapsulating up to three pivotal events or milestones. Whether it's a career achievement, a personal triumph, or a moment of introspection, each letter allows me to share the highs and lows of my journey, forging a connection that transcends the limitations of everyday conversations.

Guiding Hand for the Future​

In addition to recounting events, I use a paragraph in each letter to offer insights or gentle suggestions to my father. As our parents age, it becomes imperative to help them navigate the changes in their lives. Whether it's encouraging a new hobby, suggesting a health-conscious habit, or simply sharing words of wisdom, these letters become a channel through which I can provide support and guidance.

The Timeless Power of Letters​

In an era dominated by instant communication, the act of writing letters to my father brings a sense of nostalgia and warmth. It's a return to a slower, more deliberate form of connection, fostering a deeper understanding between us.

In conclusion, the simple act of writing letters to my father has evolved into a meaningful practice that strengthens our bond. It not only allows me to share the significant moments of my life but also serves as a platform for offering guidance and support. As our lives continue to evolve, this timeless tradition has proven to be a valuable bridge that connects generations and fosters enduring relationships.

Breathing is one of the most fundamental and vital processes of our existence, yet it often goes unnoticed.

Have you ever wondered how many times you breathe in a day? Or how the quality of your breath affects your mind and overall well-being?​

I read recently about the frequency of our breath, its effects on our mental functions, and provide practical tips to improve your breathing throughout the day, not just during workouts or meditation. In recent research and discussions, the remarkable intricacies of our daily breathing patterns have come to the forefront. The frequency of our breath, often taken for granted, has a profound impact on our mental functions and overall well-being. It's fascinating to learn that the simple act of inhaling and exhaling can be a powerful tool for enhancing our cognitive processes and emotional balance. Understanding the intricacies of our breath's cadence is the first step in unlocking its potential benefits.

The way we breathe, around 17,280 to 28,800 times in a day, is not merely a physical necessity but a gateway to emotional and mental well-being.​

Recognizing the profound relationship between our breath and our minds, it's essential to emphasize that these benefits extend beyond structured activities like workouts or meditation. They're accessible throughout our daily routines. By incorporating practical tips and conscious breathing techniques into our lives, we can harness the potential of every breath we take, reducing stress, enhancing concentration, and improving our overall quality of life. It's a reminder that, in the rhythm of our breath, we have a constant companion for well-being and mental clarity that we can turn to at any moment.

Benefits of Conscious Breathing​

Our breath is intimately connected to our mental and emotional states. Conscious breathing techniques have been used for centuries to promote relaxation, reduce stress, and enhance overall well-being. Here are some of the key benefits of mindful breathing:

• Stress Reduction: Deep, intentional breaths can activate the body's relaxation response, reducing stress and anxiety.

• Improved Focus: Mindful breathing helps enhance concentration and mental clarity, making it easier to stay on task and be more productive.

• Better Sleep: Controlled breathing techniques can improve sleep quality, leading to increased alertness and overall well-being.

• Enhanced Mood: Proper breathing can boost the release of feel-good hormones, such as endorphins, and alleviate symptoms of depression.

• Energy Boost: Oxygenating the body with deep breaths can increase energy levels, helping you stay active and alert throughout the day.

Tips for Improving Daily Breathing​

I have been noting down some practical tips to improve your breathing throughout the day:

• Practice Deep Breathing: Take a few minutes each day to practice deep breathing. Inhale deeply through your nose, expanding your diaphragm, and exhale slowly through your mouth. This helps increase lung capacity and oxygenate your body.

• Set Reminders: Set alarms or reminders on your phone to pause and take a few deep breaths throughout the day. This simple habit can help reduce stress and enhance focus.

• Use Breath as a Meditation Tool: Incorporate mindful breathing into your daily meditation routine. Focusing on your breath can help you stay present and calm.

• Optimize Your Posture: Maintaining good posture ensures your lungs have enough space to expand fully. Sit or stand up straight to facilitate easier, more effective breathing.

• Stay Hydrated: Proper hydration supports optimal lung function. Make sure to drink enough water to keep your respiratory system functioning at its best.

The significance of our breath as the very essence of life cannot be overstated. It serves as a gateway to not only our physical health but also a profound influence on our mental well-being. Breathing, often viewed as an automatic process, holds within it the potential to catalyze transformative change in our lives. By delving deeper into the understanding of how often we breathe and actively incorporating mindful breathing techniques into our daily routines, we open the door to a world of benefits. These range from a reduction in the burdens of stress that daily life can bring, to an enhancement in our ability to concentrate and maintain focus, ultimately fostering an improvement in our holistic well-being. Our breath, being with us every moment, becomes a steadfast companion in our journey towards a more serene, balanced, and healthful existence.

The power of conscious breathing is one that we carry with us, accessible at any given moment. It invites us to pause, to take a moment for ourselves amidst the rush of life, and to rediscover the magic of the present. A deep breath, followed by a gentle exhale, can serve as a reminder that we possess the ability to regain control, to find tranquility amidst chaos, and to improve our lives in ways we may have previously overlooked. By embracing this transformative potential, we embark on a journey towards a more fulfilling and harmonious daily life. So, in every breath, there lies an opportunity to reconnect with ourselves, to alleviate stress, and to nurture our mental and physical health – a timeless practice that empowers us in our quest for overall well-being.

It's been a period of growth for me over the past 150 days of daily writing on gparashar.com. What began as an experiment to improve my writing skills has evolved into a second nature habit that has enriched my life in unexpected ways. As I reflect on this milestone, I realize how much daily writing has become an integral part of my routine, offering me a pocket of 5-10 minutes each day to structure my thoughts and express myself.

When I first embarked on this writing process, I was unsure about the consistency I could maintain. But as days turned into weeks, and weeks into months, writing became as natural as breathing. I now find myself eagerly seeking those few minutes every day to put my thoughts into words. Whether it's early morning with a steaming cup of coffee or late at night in the serenity of dim lights, my laptop has become my trusted companion in this creative endeavor.

The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them - words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they're brought out. But it's more than that, isn't it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you've said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That's the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.​

One of the most significant benefits of daily writing has been the clarity it brings to my thoughts. Each day, I gather my ideas, ponder over them, and give them a coherent structure. This practice has not only refined my writing skills but has also improved my ability to articulate my thoughts in everyday conversations.

However, as I journey through my daily writing ritual, a thought often crosses my mind: what would the experience be like if I chose to write on paper with a pen instead? The difference between digital and analog writing might be similar to the contrast between reading from a paperback book and reading on a phone or laptop.

Writing on a laptop offers convenience and speed. The ease of editing, spell-checking, and automatic saves make it an efficient tool for expression. However, the downside is that the digital interface may sometimes distract from the pure flow of thoughts, with notifications and other apps tempting us to deviate from the task at hand.

Writing on paper, on the other hand, might offer a more immersive and focused experience. The tactile sensation of the pen gliding on the paper can create a unique connection between the mind and the words. There's an element of intimacy in the act of physically crafting each letter and word, which could potentially enhance the depth of expression and self-reflection.

It is this curiosity that makes me ponder over the possibility of incorporating paper and pen into my daily writing routine. Perhaps, occasionally dedicating a few days each month to this more traditional approach could open new channels of creativity and insight.

As I celebrate 150 days of daily writing, I am immensely grateful for the impact it has had on my life. It has taught me discipline, honed my writing skills, and enriched my understanding of myself. Writing has become a second habit that I cherish, a journey of introspection and exploration that has unlocked hidden facets of my personality.

To those who have not yet experienced the joy of daily writing, I encourage you to embark on your own writing journey. Whether you choose the digital realm of laptops and screens or the timeless allure of pen and paper, the benefits of regular writing are boundless. Give yourself the gift of self-expression and embrace the transformative power of words.

Gift-giving is an art, and sometimes, a gift can be more than just a physical object. It can be a thoughtful gesture that enhances our daily lives and opens doors to new possibilities. Recently, I received a gift from my sister-in-law, Avani Parashar, that perfectly embodies this sentiment. She surprised me with an Amazon Echo Dot, and little did she know how much this smart device would resonate with my passions and goals.

The Joy of Audiobooks​

As an avid reader, I have always found solace in the pages of a book. However, with a busy schedule, finding the time to sit down and read can be challenging. This is where audiobooks come in, offering the perfect solution. Audiobooks allow me to immerse myself in captivating stories, gain knowledge through non-fiction works, and even learn new languages during my commute or while performing mundane tasks. They provide a way to embrace the power of literature, even when my hands are occupied or my eyes are tired.

Seamless Integration with Audible​

What makes the gift even more remarkable is the seamless integration of Amazon Echo Dot with my Audible account. With a simple voice command, I can now access my entire audiobook library, which I have carefully curated over the years. Alexa effortlessly syncs with my Audible account, remembering my preferences, bookmarks, and progress in each book. The ability to start an audiobook on my smartphone and continue seamlessly on the Amazon Echo Dot device is a game-changer. This means I can now enjoy my favorite stories without any interruption, regardless of the device I choose.

Alexa currently has more than 90,000 skills, or abilities contributed by third-party developers — the NPR skill, the Find My Phone skill, the Jeopardy! skill, and so on. Read more​

The Thoughtfulness of Gifts​

Avani's gift of Amazon Echo Dot truly showcases her thoughtfulness and understanding of my interests. She recognized my passion for reading and my desire to delve deeper into the world of audiobooks. By gifting me Alexa, she has opened up a world of possibilities and made my journey into audiobooks even more enjoyable and convenient. It is an acknowledgment of my goals and a reflection of the bond we share as family.

Does your mind do more or less the same thing when you listening to an audio book and when you read print? Comparing audio books to cheating is like meeting a friend at Disneyland and saying “you took a bus here? I drove myself, you big cheater.” The point is getting to and enjoying the destination. The point is not how you traveled. Read more​

Amazon Echo Dot, 2023

We are all creatures of habits, whether big or small. Our daily routines and activities shape our perception of reality, creating a sense of familiarity and stability. However, even the slightest change in our routine can have a profound effect on our overall well-being and how we approach various aspects of life. Recently, I experienced this firsthand when I took a week-long break from my swimming routine due to a trip to home. As I returned to the pool, I realized that rediscovering the rhythm of swimming would require some effort and patience.

The Impact of a Change in Routine​

Traveling to a new place is an exciting adventure, but it often disrupts our established habits. Although change is invigorating, it also made me appreciate the importance of routines in our lives. Our habits provide structure and a sense of normalcy, allowing us to navigate the world with ease and familiarity.

Exercise releases endorphins and dopamine. These are the same neurotransmitters released during drug use. An exercise addict feels reward and joy when exercising. When they stop exercising, the neurotransmitters go away.​

Returning to the Swimming Pool​

After a week away, I eagerly returned to the swimming pool, ready to dive back into my usual routine. However, I soon realized that the break had taken a toll on my swimming skills. The rhythm I had built over time seemed distant, and the fluid movements I had mastered felt slightly foreign. Breathing became rusty as I struggled to find the right pattern and sync it with my strokes. My shoulders, unaccustomed to the demands of swimming, felt stiff and rusty. The water, once a comforting embrace, now posed a small challenge as I regained my familiarity with its resistance. Even my heart rate modulation seemed slightly worse, as if it had forgotten the cadence of my swimming routine.

Rediscovering the Rhythm​

Swimming is a rhythmic activity, and much like in life, rhythm serves as a foundation for most activities associated with a state of flow. As I persevered in the pool, I gradually rediscovered the rhythm that had once felt effortless. With each stroke and kick, my breathing became synchronized, and my movements flowed more naturally. The rusty feeling in my shoulders began to fade as they regained their strength and flexibility. It became clear to me that the rhythm of swimming extended beyond the physical aspects. As I regained my stride in the water, I noticed a similar sense of rhythm returning to other areas of my life. The familiar routine of swimming helped restore a sense of balance and flow, reminding me of the power of habit and its influence on our overall well-being.

Life is about rhythm. We vibrate, our hearts are pumping blood, we are a rhythm machine, that's what we are.​

Returning to the swimming pool after a week's break provided valuable insights into the role of habits and routines in our lives. We are creatures of habit, and a change in routine can have a profound effect on our perception of reality. The rustiness I experienced in my swimming abilities after a brief hiatus reminded me that getting back into the rhythm takes time and patience. Yet, the process of rediscovering that rhythm is rewarding, as it extends beyond the pool and permeates other aspects of our lives. Whether it is swimming, writing, or pursuing any passion, rhythm acts as a foundation for the state of flow and overall fulfillment. As we navigate through the ebb and flow of life, let us remember the importance of maintaining our chosen rhythms and routines, as they serve as guides and companions on our journey.

So, the next time life disrupts your routine, embrace the challenge and trust that with time and perseverance, you'll find your rhythm again, both in the pool and in life.​

Swimming - 04 July 2023

I started writing 4 months ago, the journey of self-expression started on 23rd Feb 2023. Today marks a momentous occasion as I celebrate a 120-day streak of consistent daily writing. My first piece of writing (DAY 1) Let's Start was more a stub or a blob. Today, I am putting together my top 10 learnings from this transformative habit of daily public writing.

Writing is the painting of the voice.​

1. Discovering the Joy of Self-Expression​

Writing daily has provided me with a powerful outlet to express my thoughts, ideas, and emotions. It has become a rewarding and cathartic experience that brings me immense joy and fulfillment.

2. Cultivating Discipline and Consistency​

Maintaining a daily writing practice has taught me the value of discipline and consistency. It has helped me overcome procrastination and develop a strong work ethic, enabling me to make progress towards my writing goals.

3. Unleashing Creativity​

Through consistent writing, I have tapped into the depths of my creativity. The act of writing regularly has sparked new ideas, allowed me to explore different writing styles, and helped me think outside the box.

4. Refining Communication Skills​

Writing daily has been instrumental in refining my communication skills. I have become more articulate, organized, and concise in conveying my thoughts and ideas, both in writing and in verbal communication.

5. Enhancing Clarity of Thought​

The process of putting pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard) has significantly enhanced my clarity of thought. Regular writing has helped me structure my ideas more effectively, enabling me to present them in a coherent and logical manner.

6. Overcoming Writer's Block​

By committing to writing daily, I have discovered that writer's block is merely a temporary obstacle that can be overcome. Writing consistently has trained my mind to be more adaptable and has equipped me with strategies to overcome creative blocks.

7. Developing a Unique Writing Voice​

Through daily writing, I have cultivated my own unique writing voice. I have gained a deeper understanding of my personal style, tone, and perspective, which adds authenticity and depth to my writing.

8. Expanding Knowledge and Learning​

Daily writing has encouraged me to explore new topics, conduct research, and expand my knowledge base. It has become a gateway to continuous learning and personal development.

9. Building Confidence​

As the days turned into weeks and then months, my confidence as a writer has grown exponentially. The act of consistently putting my thoughts into words has bolstered my self-belief and empowered me to share my ideas with the world.

10. Fostering Community and Connection​

Throughout this journey, I have had the pleasure of connecting with fellow writers and readers who share similar passions and interests. The writing community has provided support, encouragement, and valuable feedback, fueling my motivation to keep writing.

No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader.​

Embarking on a this streak of daily writing has been a fulfilling experience. It has become an integral part of my daily routine, shaping me into a better writer and a more self-assured individual. Writing daily has taught me discipline, enhanced my creativity, and strengthened my ability to communicate effectively.

Writing on the wall at Gandhi Nagar Station, Jaipur - India's first fully women-operated railway station

In life, we often find ourselves questioning the impact of our actions on others. Little do we know that sometimes, the smallest acts can have the greatest influence. This morning, I received a heartwarming message from one of my ex-employees, expressing how my consistency in sharing my workout stats has inspired them to stay consistent in their own fitness journey. This unexpected message filled me with immense happiness, a sense of usefulness, and an overwhelming feeling of gratitude.

The Journey of Consistency​

When I first embarked on my fitness journey, I discovered the power of consistency. Day after day, I made a commitment to myself to prioritize my health and well-being. As a way to hold myself accountable, I started sharing my workout stats on platforms like Whatsapp and Instagram. However, I must admit, in the beginning, I was unsure if these updates would be useful or even interesting for my acquaintances.

A Discussion of Doubt​

Amidst my uncertainty, I decided to seek the opinion of a trusted friend. We had a thoughtful discussion about the potential impact of sharing my workout stats. Would people find it motivational, or would they simply brush it off as self-promotion? These questions lingered in my mind as I contemplated whether to continue sharing or keep my progress to myself.

Inspiration Takes Root​

Despite my reservations, I decided to take a leap of faith and continue sharing my fitness journey. Little did I know that my consistent updates would inspire someone I had once worked with. It was this morning that I received a heartfelt message from my ex-employee, expressing how my dedication had influenced their own fitness routine positively.

Feelings of Happiness​

Receiving such a message filled me with an overwhelming sense of happiness. Knowing that my actions have inspired another person to commit to their health and well-being is an indescribable feeling. It reminds me that even the smallest acts of consistency can create ripples of positivity in the lives of others.

A Sense of Usefulness​

The message from my ex-employee reminded me of the impact we can have on those around us, even when we least expect it. By simply sharing my workout stats, I unknowingly became a source of motivation for someone striving to make positive changes in their own life. It reinforced the idea that our actions, however small they may seem, can make a significant difference in the lives of others.

Gratitude Abounds​

Lastly, the gratitude I felt upon reading the message cannot be put into words. I am grateful for the opportunity to have inspired someone and to have played a role in their fitness journey. This unexpected connection reminded me of the interconnectedness of our actions and how they can touch the lives of others in meaningful ways.

In our quest for personal growth and fulfillment, let us strive to be consistent, to share our journeys, and to support and uplift those around us. You never know whose life you may touch and inspire along.​

Life has a way of getting hectic, and sometimes, our favorite activities take a backseat. For me, writing and meditation have been two pillars of joy and self-expression. However, recently, I've been struggling to keep up with these practices. I will share my journey of rediscovering the joy of writing and meditation and present an action plan for the next 30 days to reignite these passions. I wish to embark on this journey of finding balance and nurturing my creative and mindful selves.

The Struggle to Keep Up​

Writing and meditation have brought me immense peace and fulfillment in the past. However, amidst the demands of daily life and a busy schedule, I found myself neglecting these activities. The joy and sense of accomplishment that writing and meditation once provided started to fade away. It became evident that I needed to prioritize these activities to regain the balance and serenity they brought into my life.

Action Plan for the Next 30 Days​

1. Establish a Routine: Consistency is key. Block out dedicated time slots each day for writing and meditation. Treat these activities as non-negotiable appointments with yourself. Start with shorter sessions and gradually increase the duration as you get back into the groove.

2. Set Realistic Goals: Break down your writing and meditation goals into achievable tasks. Whether it's writing a certain number of words per day or meditating for a specific duration, set goals that are realistic and attainable. Celebrate each milestone achieved to stay motivated.

3. Create a Sacred Space: Designate a peaceful corner in your home as your writing and meditation space. Personalize it with inspiring quotes, soft lighting, and comfortable seating. This dedicated space will serve as a sanctuary for your creative and reflective pursuits.

4. Embrace Mindfulness in Daily Life: Incorporate mindfulness into your daily routines. Practice being present in the moment, whether it's savoring a cup of tea, taking a mindful walk, or engaging in deep breathing during moments of stress. This will help cultivate a sense of mindfulness beyond the dedicated meditation sessions.

Rediscovering the joy of writing and meditation requires dedication, intention, and a commitment to self-care. By implementing an action plan for the next 30 days, I hope to gradually reintroduce these activities into my life and restore the balance that they bring.

Finding time for what brings us joy and peace is an essential part of self-care and personal growth.​

In our fast-paced world, where distractions abound and mediocrity often prevails, the pursuit of relentless focus and impeccable quality in personal tasks is a rare and admirable trait. I have learnt this from my father, who embodies these qualities in his daily life. His unwavering dedication and commitment serve as a constant source of inspiration, reminding me of the profound impact that can be achieved through unwavering focus and a commitment to excellence.

Setting High Standards​

From as far back as I can remember, my father has consistently set high standards for himself in every task he undertakes. Whether it's completing a household chore, working on a personal project, or pursuing a hobby, he approaches each task with unwavering focus and a commitment to achieving the best possible outcome. His dedication to excellence serves as a guiding principle in all aspects of his life.

Attention to Detail​

Impeccable quality is a hallmark of my father's approach to personal tasks. He believes that no detail is too small to be overlooked, and he meticulously attends to every aspect of his endeavors. Whether it's a DIY project or preparing a meal, he invests time and effort in understanding the intricacies, ensuring that every element is executed flawlessly. This unwavering attention to detail is what sets his work apart and elevates it to a level of excellence.

Cultivating a Sense of Fulfillment​

One of the most remarkable aspects of my father's relentless focus and impeccable quality is the sense of fulfillment it brings him. Seeing him immersed in his personal tasks, fully present and engaged, is a testament to the joy that comes from pursuing excellence. His work not only showcases his talent and dedication but also brings him a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

We need to do a better job of putting ourselves higher on our own ‘to-do’ list.​

Gloaming​

How many sunsets have you lived? - I asked this question to myself. And no, it is not a rhetorical question. I remember some distinct evenings when I was mindful and present. It felt like time has gone still and nature so serene. Sunset are reminder of rhythms in life - the cycle of rise, shine, set and repeat.

I do hope to observe sunsets more frequently. I do not need to be on a beach to do that. Only need to be present in the moment and look at the marvel of nature and its rhythms.

Chasing Daylight​

Eugene O'Kelly, talks about gloaming in his book Chasing Daylight.

The last rays of light and the shadows that fall just before the gloaming that follows. Gloaming is when shadows disappear. It’s not completely dark yet, but there are no more shadows. Gloaming is what separates day from night.